Jahreszeitentisch

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Hallo Ihr lieben,

heute ist Herbstanfang. Draußen ist es noch recht warm, doch man merkt dass so langsam der Herbst und Winter angekrochen kommen. Irgendwie freue ich mich auf die kälteren Tage. Suppe essen, dicker Pullover und Socken hören sich im Moment sehr gemütlich an. Ich weiß aber auch dass ich es nach 2-3 Wochen wieder leid sein werde 🙂

Nun wo die Jungs älter sind, wir basteln können, Kastanien und Eicheln sammeln, Drachen steigen und überhaupt viel unternehmen können, finde ich den Herbst recht attraktiv 🙂 Gestern haben wir schon unsere erste Ladung Kastanien gesammelt.

Und ich habe beschlossen einen Jahreszeitentisch zu machen mit unseren Schätzen und vielleicht ein zwei anderen Dingen. Ich bin selbst mit Jahreszeitentisch aufgewachsen. Meine Mutter hatte immer einen für uns Kinder in unserer Küche. Ich hatte mir immer vorgestellt das ich so etwas nicht mache. Zu Waldorf, zu abgedreht. Aber siehe da, die Jungs werden älter und ich mache mehr und mehr wie ich es von zuhause kenne. Plötzlich finde ich es nicht zu Waldorf, nicht zu abgedreht sondern empfinde es als Stütze, als eine sehr schöne Art die Jahreszeit ins Haus zu bringen. Auch die gesammelten Schätze haben so einen besonderen Platz und können regelmäßig bestaunt werden. Sie landen nicht sofort in der Ecke sondern werden geschätzt!

Ich habe auch begonnen mit der Nadel zu filzen. Zwei kleine Kürbisse sind schon fast fertig. Als nächstes will ich mich an einem Zwerg versuchen. Und ich denke ich werde mich auch an einem Transparent Bild für das Fenster versuchen. Mal sehen wie das alles wird…

Habt ihr auch einen Jahreszeitentisch? Was macht ihr mit euren gesammelten Schätzen? Was habt ihr geplant für den Herbst?

Herzlichst, Mama Madola

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Summer in Berlin…and we are sick

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it’s beautiful outside, 31°C and sunny. The boys are healthy luckily, but Papa Madola is lying bed with a fever, infected sinuses and joint pains. He is an easy patient as long as he is sleeping 🙂 I was also sick, was stung by a wasp last week and had a seriously shitty allergic reaction to it over the weekend. Luckily the doc gave me some cortisone tablets so that I can function again today. I looked like a ‘Streuselkuchen' or maybe more like I had measles. Anyway, its over now, the rash is calming down and the swelling is almost all gone! So glad its over. Its not a nice feeling to be so itchy, swollen and overall feeling weird.

Now looking after the husband while the kids are going crazy in the flat. Babka in the over, an order form my husband. Healthy dinner has been shopped for and will be made later when it gets a little cooler. I think I`m gonna keep on cleaning, clearing and making the house a little neater. Every once in while I get an attack of wanting to give lots away and make space. I feel its cluttered here and I don’t like to have too many things. It makes life harder and chaotic. I like it to be minimalistic but with a charm and warm feeling. Just not too many things!

And I guess I have to prepare for autumn too. Even though the temperatures don’t really feel like autumn, I know soon its gonna change and then I will be scrambling to get it cosy in here. So now that I have some time in here, maybe I will use it wisely and prepare a couple of things.

xx Mama Madola

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Alltägliches Ringen mit meinem Großen

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Ich muss zugeben, im Moment habe ich Phasen in denen ich gern alles hinschmeißen möchte. Mein Großer, Lennon, stellt mich im Moment tagtäglich auf die Probe. Als ob er ausprobieren möchte ob ich es auch ernst meine. Das ist sein Job. Das muss er tun, Grenzen austesten, meine Worttreue prüfen, sein eigenes Reich abstecken und auch mal sagen dürfen: “Mama, bitte lass mich in Ruhe ich möchte jetzt spielen”. Doch das ständige austesten kann auch ganz schön an den Nerven zerren. Ich mache es grundsätzlich gern, mit Überzeugung und Liebe, doch auch einen Job den man liebt darf man mal anstrengend finden…oder nicht?

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Lennon wird im Dezember 5 Jahre alt und sein Horizont wird immer weiter. Er fragt mehr detaillierte Fragen, will viel über die Natur und vor allem Tieren wissen. Ich liebe das. Das Fragen und wenn ich es nicht weiss muss ich es rausfinden… Toll, so kann ich auch noch dazulernen. Lennon ist total vernarrt in alles was krabbelt. Von Spinnen, Armeisen, Kellerasseln zu Fröschen, Fischen und größeren Tieren wie Katzen, Hunde und Bauernhoftieren. Wir müssen regelmässig zur Domäne Dahlem um den Kühen, Schweinen und Hühnern Hallo zu sagen. Es ist ihm sehr wichtig. Jeden Tag fängt er ein Krabbeltier und bringt es nach Hause. Er hat mittlerweile immer eine Tupperschale mit, falls er fündig wird. Wie bekommt ihr es hin euren Kindern die Natur nahe zu bringen wenn ihr in einer Stadt wohnt ohne Garten vor der Tür? Je älter die Jungs werden, je mehr Fragen von Lennon kommen, desto mehr wird mir klar das ich möchte das sie viel Natur erleben, fühlen und aufnehmen können. Ich möchte das sie wissen wo Gemüse und Früchte herkommen, wie sie wachsen und wie sie alle heißen. Ich möchte mein kleines Wissen von Pflanzennamen an sie weitergeben und ihnen nahelegen auf die Natur aufzupassen, ein Bewusstsein für unsere Umgebung zu entwickeln.

Doch ich empfinde es als sehr schwer das zu erreichen in der Stadt in einer Etagenwohnung ohne Balkon. Die paar Pflanzen die ich in Töpfen hier in der Wohnung habe machen nun mal keinen Garten wett. Mal sehen was noch wird…

XXX Mama Madola

Kita Ja oder Nein…

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This time in German, dieses mal auf Deutsch…

Unser Sohn Elliot ist nun gut über 2 Jahre alt und wir hatten eigentlich geplant dass er im September im Kindergarten seines großen Bruders mit der Eingewöhnung beginnt. Doch wir haben uns umentschieden. Wir haben uns auf unser Bauchgefühl berufen und zusammen beschlossen das es noch nicht die richtige Zeit ist. Für uns die richtige Entscheidung.
Was mich hinterher erschreckte sind die Reaktionen in meinem Umfeld, im Kindergarten selbst, auf dem Spielplatz und Freundeskreis.

Es scheint eine komische Sache ein Kind erst mit 3 Jahren in den Kindergarten zu schicken, da frage ich mich warum das wohl so ist.
Ich bin damals mit 4 Jahren in den Kindergarten gegangen und dann auch nur bis 12 Uhr jeden Tag. Keine Frage, jemand der arbeiten muss, ob nun in Teil- oder Vollzeit ist auf eine Kita angewiesen und ich will es auch nicht verteufeln Kinder früher in die Kita zu schicken.
Doch ich empfinde es als beschämend wie wir Mütter uns gegenseitig verurteilen und fertig machen. Jeder müsste doch die Freiheit haben zu entscheiden wann das Kind in den Kindergarten kommt ohne gleich komisch angeguckt zu werden, ohne gefragt zu werden wie wir uns das den leisten können, ohne das ich mich sofort frage ob mein Bauchgefühl denn richtig ist, ohne das ich als Glucke abgestempelt werde oder gar faul. Die Frage wie ich es denn mit meinem Sohn den ganzen Tag aushalte, fand ich sehr unqualifiziert.

Ich empfinde es als eine Bereicherung mehr Zeit mit meinem Sohn zu haben, mehr bewusste Momente und Erinnerungen zu erleben. Ich empfinde es als entspannend zu wissen das er noch ein Jahr bei mir ist und wir noch nicht das Alltagschaos meistern müssen. Lennon geht in die Kita und so haben wir noch ein Jahr den für uns normalen Alltag mit dem mittäglichen Abholen von Lennon von der Kita und was noch so ansteht.

Was sind Eure Gedanken dazu? Bin ich zu sensibel? Es ist nicht einfach auf sein Bauchgefühl zu vertrauen, wenn als Mutter einem oft von allen Seiten Gegenwind entgegenkommt.

XX Kisses

Riding his bike

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my oldest son, Lennon has been nagging me to teach him how to ride his big boys bike. Since we restored my old one, the one I learned how to ride a bike on, he has been trying to sit on it and couldn’t reach the floor yet. We tried again three weeks ago and he could reach the floor. He was over the moon and we went straight ahead with balancing and I showed him to put the pedals just ride to gain momentum and so on.

It didn’t take long, he was very persistent and patient, and he told me to stop helping him, not to hold him and to let go. When did kids become so clever?

wIt literally felt like he was asking me to let go and let him gain more independence, to loosen the string just a little more for him to grow up and become his own self. I let go and felt so proud but also so sad. Proud of my sunshine boy that has now entered the stage of riding a bike, so proud that he went with it, wasn’t scared of it, didn’t need training wheels and learned riding his bike within a week, from first time sitting properly on it to being able to jump on and off by himself and steer his way past pedestrians and other obstacles. And very sad because he is growing up so fast, pushing for independence and learning so fast that I sometimes feel I can’t keep up. He has made a big jump this summer, and the summer isn’t even over yet…

Being a parent must be the only job in the world where being proud, love and sadness lay so close together you experience them all at once.

Mama Madola

Back again… new energy!

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the last month has been crazy, my little man has started kindergarden and even though I thought I would be cool about it, I do miss him when I leave him for 15 min. Crazy how attached a mother is to her child. Oh well its crazy how I am attached to little Lennon, who isn’t so little any more after all.
He doesn’t visit the kindergarden the whole day, just for two hours and I am accompany him the whole time, but I sit in the background and let the kindergarden teacher handle everything. Then I leave for 15 min and go around the block once or twice to kill the time. Its weird to have the time/ peace to look at things in the shops, windows and be at a supermarket without having someone pull stuff out of the shelves from their pram. Hahahaha after 2 years of having my sunshine around, I can’t remember life before him. Thats great. So happy to have him and to also slowly find some new freedom.
Next week we will hopefully take the next step and I will leave him for a longer time so that he actually really accepts and realises that I can go and leave him with the other kids and that I also come back every time.

Otherwise Berlin has been rainy, grey, winter and pre-adventszeit. When I lived in Cape Town, I always missed this time. The time when it gets cold and rainy. I do kind of love putting the heaters on, lighting candles all over the rooms and baking christmas-biscuits. It makes my heart feel warm 🙂 I have made some double chocolate chip cookies so far and some peanut butter biscuits. Lennon loves them, so do I. Papa Madola isn’t such a biscuit fan. So Lennon and I get to eat them all…

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What do you guys bake, pickle, cook during this time?
Its funny in Cape Town this feeling of having to bake, cook, pickle things, never overcame me. Must have been the warm weather and time at the Clifton Beach that kept me occupied enough to not think about it 🙂

Would love to hear what you guys are making this christmas-time.

*Hugs and Kisses*

Lennon and my iPhone

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Just paged through a parenting magazine ‘Nido’ and saw that according to a study (KIM-Study 2012) two thirds of kids between six and thirteen years of age are interested and glued to a cellphone/ smartphone.
I was a little shocked but then reminded myself of my own little man Lennon. He isn’t even six yet and he is already asking to play with my iPhone.
I always wonder if we as parents should give in, to the ‘new-age’ way of playing, or should we be hard and make it clear from the beginning that we don’t want them playing games on the iPhone.

I grew up without any smartphones, iPads, we didn’t even have a computer or TV. When my siblings and I wanted to play, we went outside, played in the room with cars, dolls, or we sat around looking at pictures in books etc.
But I do remember, whenever I went to a friends house, where they had a TV or computer, I was literally glued to the ‘new’ entertainment. It wasn’t very social of me.

And now that I am a mother and have to make these decisions for my son, I always wonder what the good middle path is. A little here and a little there can’t be bad. But everything in moderation.

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But I do find it very scary how my son can un-slides/unlocks my iPhone, slides the icons to the left to reach his one game that is on my phone. He taps it, hits play and plays the game. When he is done and had enough, he pushes the home button to return to the home screen and put’s the phone down.

I downloaded the game only for the really hard times, when he is screaming on the underground train, or when he won’t sit still at a doctor’s office etc. But maybe I should delete it and stop letting him play with it.

I have made it my mission to not be on the phone as much and I try really hard to leave the phone behind when I am on the move and busy with Lennon.
And I must say, I haven’t been on the phone as much and he doesn’t get reminded of the cellular device 🙂 The nagging for the phone has almost stopped. Great!
I most definitely miss it more than he does. Its kind of sick how we believe we can’t live without these things. How it’s such a habit to check my emails all the time, check facebook and who is doing what. I mean it really is mind boggling how we depend on these devices out of habit.

*Hugs and Kisses*

‘Nackidei’ is the new ‘Please’

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This morning my dear son Lennon wanted some yogurt for breakfast.
He pointed at the yoghurt in the fridge and made it very clear that I should be moving faster to make it all happen.
I asked him to say ‘please’, as I am trying very hard to add some new words to his vocabulary, and he smiles at me and says: ‘nackidei’.
Its german for ‘ butt naked, or completely naked’. I had to laugh out aloud and he loved the reaction. He thought he was took funny and started to repeat it. I’ve noticed he says words and watches my or Papa Madola’s reaction and those words that get a laugh, he will repeat. The others he won’t repeat again. As you can imagine, we had a very happy and funny breakfast. Him eating his yoguhrt and us laughing at him saying funny words and trying to make us laugh even more.

In the last couple of days he has been adding little words to his vocabulary and I have been trying to add new ones with him. But he does in his own time and I am sure he’ll get there eventually.
Because of him growing up in an English/German language household, he mixes a lot. But he uses mostly english words. Besides the usual ‘Mama’, ‘Papa’, ‘Wau Wau’ and ‘Mooo’, he now also says: ‘Down’, ‘Water’, ‘Nackidei’, ‘More’, ‘Duck’, ‘Ball’ and ‘Daddy’ and ‘Dakke’, which is probably meant to be ‘Danke’, ‘Thank you’ in german.
As you can see its mostly english and on the one hand I cant wait for him to build sentences but on on the other hand I am not sure I want to have the ‘Why’ question coming all the time and discussions why he can or cant do something.
But I don’t have a choice and thats the way it is… Luckily due to the bilingual mess he is starting a little later than other kids.

*Hugs and Kisses*

Fulltime Mom and Career Woman…

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is that doable?
Today we mothers are supposed to raise beautiful children that are well-rounded, behave like the queen and are intelligent little people and we have to also have a ‘normal’ job and earn money.
Why do feel so much pressure to go out there and find a job, earn money and have a career just to make everyone happy? Whats wrong with being a stay at home mom and be there for the kids 24/7? Not that I wouldn’t like to work outside the home a few hours a week, I think the interaction with other people would help my sanity, but why do I feel like everyone looks at me strange when I tell them that I am at home with my 19 months old son. He will be starting kindergarten this fall, then I will have the time to look for some work, and I remember that I only started kindergarten when I was 4 years old, not 20 months.
Now a days we send our kids off to Kita so we can have a career and earn money. I know that most families need the extra money and I don’t want to put those women in the same boat with the lady’s that don’t really have to work, from a financial point of view. I might be super old-fashioned, but I thought having kids also means to raise them and not ship them off to the Kita the moment they are weaned off the breast.
Oh Oh Oh, I can notice a ton in my writing. I apologise, I know that I am very fortunate to be able to stay at home and look after my son. And don’t get me wrong, I will be looking for a job for the mornings that Lennon will be at kindergarten, just to have the extra bugs and some change between play, nappy changes and explaining why he can’t draw on the wall with the crayons.
But I will drop him off at the kindergarten and fetch him before his nap time. That way I will get the whole afternoon with him and maybe next year I will consider letting him stay until 3pm. I feel there are so many things he has to learn at this stage and don’t wanna miss out on them. I would like to be there when he says his first sentence, when he starts using the potty properly, when he starts to find the patience to read a story with me and the list goes on.
Won’t I miss out on them if I leave him at the Kita the whole day just to have 3-4 hours in the afternoon until he goes to bed?

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Besides that, between changing nappy’s, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, I think I have forgotten what I enjoy. I don’t have any hobbies. What are my real interests, what could I do/make to earn some extra money and contribute on moving into a bigger home with either garden or a nice balcony? I do love to sew, love to bake, love to draw and take pretty pictures. But aren’t those the things all mothers land up liking? Have I become a typical mother that doesn’t know what she likes? Or am I just scared to start something after all this time and maybe fail? It seems so much easier staying at home and ‘just’ looking after Lennon. But that way I won’t be able to make things happen for us. I would like a garden of some sort and I am going to have to come up with a concept to make that happen for the three of us.

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I am thinking of coming out with a product for mothers that will include sewing and designing and I think that would be a good start. I will need some funding, but hopefully a kickstarter campaign like ‘indiegogo.com’ will help me with that. So watch this space, I might surprise all of you 🙂

Are you mom’s out there also struggle with this? What do you do for extra cash and keeping your sanity?

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*Hugs and Kisses*

Bilingual Blog?!

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How do I write a Blog and accommodate all friends and family. Keine Ahnung. I have friends and family, Freunde und Verwandte, who don’t the same language. Schreibe ich nur auf Deutsch und die südafrikansichen Leser können es nicht verstehen, or do I write only in english and hope that all my german readers understand english? A real Bilingual mess, I say!!! Oder schreibe ich den Blog auf Deutsch mit der Option es alles auch auf Englisch lesen zu können, also würde ich jeden Post zweimal in zwei verschiedenen Sprachen schreiben müssen. Gibt es keinen automatischen Übersetzer! That would be wonderful. Oh well, I guess I’m gonna have to write in two languages and hope some one is happy about my efforts to accommodate everyone.
What are your suggestions? Irgendwelche Ideen wie ich es lösen könnte?

At the moment we are experiencing a heat wave in Berlin. The best! Es gibt nichts besseres als warmes Wetter, so lange es nicht zu warm ist. Lennon loves playing outside, we have ice lollies, watermelon and play with water. Er its meist nur in seiner Windel und schmiert sich den Matsch auf den Bauch, herrlich kühl und dreckig. Findet er toll.

Heute Abend ist Shabbes. I’m gonna cook up a storm, no wait.. Im gonna prepare a whole lot of asian ingredients and the just before Dinner throw it together to serve as a salad. Ich glaube ich werde aber heute zur Feier des Tages einen Lemon Meringue Pie backen. I’ll take pictures to show you how the pie turned out. So, we will have an asian inspired salad, with lemon meringue pie for dessert and some white wine to wash it all down. Sounds good? I think so. Light, not too heavy. I cant eat heavy food on hot days.

Morgen kommt Lennon’s Tante. Er freut sich schon sehr. Endlich jemand der mit ihm spielen will, ohne die Wäsche waschen zu müssen, die Küche zu putzen etc. 🙂 Sie wird eine Weile in Berlin bleiben, das wird uns viel Gelegenheit bieten Kaffee zu trinken, zu klönen, etwas zu unternehmen, Berlin unsicher zu machen und so weiter. Wir freuen uns schon auf sie!!!